The bitterest tears shed over graves are for words left unsaid and deeds left undone. ~ Harriet Beecher Stowe
This year has been one with way too many funerals. Precious souls who have been wrenched from our lives. Sudden. Untimely. Unfair.
At each service while listening to friends and family share how the departed enriched their lives, I’m reminded of a song that states, “Give me roses while I am living.”
Am I doing enough of that? What would I say about someone, about what they meant to me, about their character, and what I really appreciated about them, during their funeral service that I’ve not said to their face?
Now, while they live, it is time to let them know.
While visiting a garden in Hilton Head I noticed a dead tree among several majestic oaks. Perhaps it was struck by lightning or maybe it was diseased. I wondered why the gardeners didn’t cut the dead tree down. It was an eyesore. All the other trees had lacy ferns and velvety moss growing along their thick branches. Spanish moss hung from every branch like a shawl.
And then my gaze fell on this sign in front of the dead tree.
Wow. Who knew? This sign changed the way I viewed the dead tree among the beautiful ones. It was no longer an eyesore, but a refuge and valuable. The filter of my understanding was altered. In just a few seconds my estimation for that tree rose to new heights.
In human society we admire pretty people. People who did nothing to earn their beauty. They just inherited great genes. And yet they are held in highest esteem, envied, and emulated. Those who are considered passable or homely are often ignored, even mocked. There are also those whose lives have been struck by a firebolt or altered by disease. Are they any less valuable?
True beauty is hidden deep in the soul. We see it in the way people conduct themselves, how they treat others, and what they contribute to their communities and the world. And in my humble opinion, those who have soul beauty grow more physically attractive with each passing year. As a society, we need our filters altered. We need to seek the good in others. How wonderful it would be to appreciate their strengths and talents over their physical appearance.
Do you feel unimportant and over looked? Please, look in the mirror today and say to the reflection, “You are valuable.”
Because you are!