BEING MISUNDERSTOOD ~ What do you do?

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Writers are used to rejection. It is just part of the process. And usually the rejection wording is benign. Something like, Sorry but it doesn’t fit our present needs. 

But then there is the editor who absolutely hates it and gives the reasons why. That happened to me recently.

When I read this editor’s criticism of my heroine it nearly gave me whiplash. I obviously didn’t share my message too well.

At first I was hurt. Then I became angry, Then I got offended. The three phases of being misunderstood. Ever been there? It isn’t a pleasant or peaceful place to be. I realized I needed to take action before I let this offense take me to a dark place and make decisions I would regret later. Here are the steps I take when something like this happens:

1. I take a deep breath

2. I ask myself, what is true? If any of this editor’s points are valid. I would benefit if I’d listen. I must always be teachable.

3. I must consider the editor and give the benefit of the doubt. Perhaps this person has so many manuscripts to read that there is only time to skim. Being a Christian editor, maybe this person has different denominational beliefs from me that hid the nuances of my character’s behaviors that I actually patterned after Jesus’ disciples’.

4. I must have a plan of action. And I do. Having a direction helps me move forward instead of looking back.

Being misunderstood is hard, but it happens. Having your message misunderstood is painful. For those of you who have read my posts for any amount of time knows how important helping others through my message is to me. But it happens. Life goes on and so must we.

There are two choices we can make after being misunderstood, we can either let it deepen our character by taking the steps above, or we can let it darken us by putting us in a dungeon of bitterness.

I choose to move on. How about you?

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3 thoughts on “BEING MISUNDERSTOOD ~ What do you do?

  1. Having so many rejections over the years, I’ve learned that once we get past one, we can look back on it and tell a good story that brings a laugh. You are doing just the right thing. I have lots of funny stories about rejections. You might begin to collect some too. Moving on is by far the best.

  2. Moving on is the right thing to do but more importantly, is exactly what you said you need to be…”Teachable.” The Lord Blesses a Teachable Spirit.

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