OOPS

About the time I think I have this WordPress Blog figured out, I find out I don’t. I wrote a post for my Linda Loving Life blog and couldn’t get it to go to the right blog. Finally after three tries I figured out what I was doing wrong.

I apologize for filling up your email! And in case you were interested here is the post in the correct blog;

http://lindalovinglife.wordpress.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=11&action=edit&message=6&postpost=v2

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ROMANCE = LOVE?

Neal and me

I am going to write 4 romance novellas and I admit, writing romance may be difficult for me. Why? Well, it certainly isn’t because my husband isn’t romantic, because he is the prince of romance. I think it is because too many people equate romance with love. And while the two go hand in hand, like steak sauce and steak, they are not equal.

Therein lies the problem. People confuse the two. So what is love? In the English language there are many ways we use the word love: I love you, I love tiramisu, I love horror movies, I love the holidays . . . you get the picture. Most of these, like romance, are heavy in the emotional, feel good, category. So what is real love? 

The best definition I know is found in the Hebrew word agapao. It means to honor, esteem, cherish, favor, respect, accept, prize, relish, to be devoted to, be loyal to, it is the kind of love rooted in the mind and will that motivates us to actions that benefits others

And there you have it. True love primarily benefits others. While we are looking for someone to love us we are missing out on true love. Love that has less to do with emotion and everything to do with how we honor, esteem, cherish, favor, respect, accept, prize, relish, are devoted to, and loyal to. And the highest kind of love is when the person we are loving are not behaving in a way that deserves it.

The love I have described is not easy, it doesn’t always feel good, and sometimes it isn’t  recognized or appreciated. But, it is that kind of love by which Christ loves us. To love with unconditional love is hard. It takes a dedicated mindset. But when we love with this kind of love it heals and empowers us.

I read this yesterday, a prayer by Francis Frangipane and made it my prayer: Help me, Master, to recognize Your love, not as a divine emotion, but as Your very substance. Help me to see that it was neither Pilate not Satan that put You on the cross; it was love alone to which You succumbed.

SMILES

“Autumn, the year’s last, loveliest smile.”- William Cullen Bryant

Autumn truly has a beautiful smile. That is why this is my favorite time of year. The fall season is also a busy one for me. Conferences and speaking engagements keep me on the road. This is a good thing because I love to travel because I get to meet all kinds of great people. Like Mr. T.

No, not the tough-guy Mr. T bedecked with gold chains, but Mr. T in Dallas Texas who has one of the most beautiful, brilliant, smiles I’ve seen. He works at the Parkway Central Embassy Suites. He shuttled us to and from our restaurant and kept us entertained with his sparkling personality.

Speaking of beautiful smiles, Tammy, the Embassy’s Food and Drink Supervisor, was equally as delightful and attentive. And then there was the bartender, Mark, who worked so fast, I would have paid to watch him.

You know, it is the people you meet and interact with, if only for an evening, that enrich life. Not stuff or things. Don’t get me wrong, I like stuff and things, but all of that can be gone in an instant. For me, I’d rather invest my time with people and create memories because those stay with us.

Thank you Mr. T, Tammy, and Mark for being so gracious and adding to my wealth of good memories!