Today I received an email about the Socrates’ Triple Filter test about how to handle gossip. Before he’d listen to anything he’d filter it through Truth, Goodness, and Usefulness. After reading it I tried to verify that Socrates truly taught this and found that many philosophers claim authorship. Nonetheless, it is great wisdom and something I will endeavor to practice before I listen and before I speak.
This might get hard, I will probably fail, but eventually I will make this a part of my life! The following are how I am to apply these filters:
Truth: make absolutely sure what I am about to say or hear are the truth.
Goodness: Is it something good about that person?
Useful: Is the information useful to me? Does it make me better? Will it make the person spoken of better? Am I a part of the problem or part of the solution?
What better time to do this than in an election year. I will probably have half a tongue in a few weeks!
I saw an interesting tree while traveling in Liss, England. It is hollow in the middle. Like the one the Keebler Elves live in! You can actually go inside it, look up and see the sky. It is empty, but it lives. Not just lives, but thrives as you can see in the picture.
Every time I feel like I’ve failed or not measured up somehow, I think of that tree and how I feel as hollow as it is, and yet, I can and must still thrive.
How do I do that?
I have to make a decision. How am I going to use this “failure” experience? Am I going to let chew away at my soul, or am I going to use it as a learning tool? You know, failure can be an excellent tool. Not only can I learn from it but I can use this experience to connect and help others.
Just like this tree, I should welcome others to walk inside my experiences and see that it is possible to thrive no matter what happens.
If you’ve failed, I’m so sorry. But now it is time to examine the experience, write down what you’ve learned, and from that . . .
Grow and Thrive!
“Everyone has an invisible sign hanging from their neck saying, ‘Make me feel important. . . ’” ~ Mary Kay Ash
Recently we decided to add to our flock of hens, or Fr’Hens as I call them. I’ve learned a lot about life from my Fr’Hens. And it is no different with these new balls of feather fluff. Even though they are less than a week old, they have already established a “pecking order.” And although this is a natural social organizing among chickens, it is still sad.
The little chick in the above picture seems to understand and accept that she is not welcomed to join the bundle. If I could speak “chicken” and if she could understand, I’d pick her up and say, “Don’t let them fool you! You are just as cute and healthy as they are. You have the same purpose as they, and will lay eggs with the best of them. Hold your beak high and jump right in the middle of them! Peck the back. Stand your ground!”
Alas, I cannot speak chicken, and she wouldn’t understand me anyway. But I can do this for people.
There are those who, although are visible to the eyes of others, are still invisible. They know it. It is easy to recognize them. They are the ones who stand apart from the crowd, who stare at their feet, who listen on without saying anything. They are the students who sit alone in school cafeterias, the adults that sit alone in social gatherings. They have the look that says, “I wish I could think of something to say, I wish I was part of your crowd, I’m so lonely.”
Let’s train our eyes to see those who are invisible. Let’s listen to our hearts and help them to realize they are important, valuable, and that they should hold their heads high.